Ever been afraid they'd all find out your secret? Me too. But not anymore.

From 1986-2003 I was a Canadian stripper. From 2003-2014, a Jesus Freak. Now I'm just Paula. Maybe we can figure out who we are together.


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So I still don’t post much here because the truth of the matter is I’m still kind of scared. Scared of being burned. But, no more. The fear is NOT gone but feel the fear and do it anyway, amirite? Y’all know I’m a teacher of children right? And somehow female sexuality can not be

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World Champs

I rejoined Toastmasters a couple of months ago for completely social reasons.  I have no desire to write speeches right now but I’m having a hell of a lot of fun with the group. Tonight I chaired the meeting and I chose the theme of World Champions because the Toastmasters World Championship of Public Speaking

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So much has happened since my last post, almost 4 months ago that obviously I have not had time to write here.  But I want to tell you what happened because it is a BIG pivot. My comedy class got CANCELLED.  I was DEVASTATED.  They didn’t have enough students to run it. However, the same

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Paula Howley ex-stripper, speaker, public speaking coach for kids, kids speaking expert, confidence and compassion coach

Synthesizing an Unmistakable Voice

Srinivas Rao sent me an advanced copy of his upcoming book, “Unmistakable”.  I’m sure he sent out dozens of unproofed copies but still,  to be on his radar is pretty cool.  I’m reading it now, slowly.  One section at a time and yes, it resonates.  I’ve had 3 epiphanies just in the past hour. Ephinany

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Paula Howley ex stripper, speaker, author, public speaking teache

Coming out of the Stripper Closet

People sometimes tell me how brave they think I am and I laugh inside my head because I know that fear is a long time dance partner of mine.  The only reason I do ‘brave’ things is because I can’t live with the alternative.  I don’t think there’s anything brave about that, it’s just practical.

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Where’ve you been?

Well, I’ve been trying to un-school my daughter, battling shingles, re-imagining my marriage with my husband, reading, be-ing. I’m going inside.  Inside without an agenda except to explore and chronicle. Stuff I’m reading is helping me re-member myself and discern what is important to me.  I read Tori Amos’ biography.  She is important to me

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