Author Archives: Paula Howley

Paula Howley ex stripper, speaker, author, public speaking teache

Coming out of the Stripper Closet

People sometimes tell me how brave they think I am and I laugh inside my head because I know that fear is a long time dance partner of mine.  The only reason I do ‘brave’ things is because I can’t live with the alternative.  I don’t think there’s anything brave about that, it’s just practical.

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Where’ve you been?

Well, I’ve been trying to un-school my daughter, battling shingles, re-imagining my marriage with my husband, reading, be-ing. I’m going inside.  Inside without an agenda except to explore and chronicle. Stuff I’m reading is helping me re-member myself and discern what is important to me.  I read Tori Amos’ biography.  She is important to me

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Paula Howley stripper memoir

To Be or Not to Be – Regardless, the Sauce is Everywhere

They tell me I’ve been writing this stripper memoir for 50 days straight now.  And that is why my mind feels like a  massive plate of spaghetti- a mountain of random thoughts askew, piled up on top of each other, some even stuck together- the occasional meatball to chew on for a while and feel

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Ankle Deep in Brain Dust…plus, a story!

I’ve been writing every day for the past 2 weeks- a minimum of 888 words a day so I’ve got a chunk of something under my belt now.  The bad news is 98.5% of it is absolute crap that I’d be embarrassed to show my 11th grade English teacher.  The good news is 1.5% of

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Paula Howley, stripper, exotic dancer, Paula Scott

Official Skank

Tomorrow is the day of reckoning – I start writing the memoir.  So, if you were ever a jerk to me, watch out.  And if I was ever a jerk to you, I promise you your day of reckoning is coming too. I paid a business coach a thousand bucks to hold me accountable for this.

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I am Her and She was Me

So, I actually hired a very interesting business coach today who is going to whip my ass for 69 days while I get into a pattern of writing the stripper memoir I have been talking about writing for damned close to 20 years. A 20 year wait.  Man, that even sounds embarrassing.  But don’t forget

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