Ever been afraid they'd all find out your secret? Me too. But not anymore.

From 1986-2003 I was a Canadian stripper. From 2003-2014, a Jesus Freak. Now I'm just Paula. Maybe we can figure out who we are together.

What do sex workers have in common with children?

Marginalized voices and vulnerable bodies. Who better then, to teach your kids how to walk through their fear and into their confidence? My former speaking coach, Rich Hopkins and I had a lovely quick chat about, kids, speaking, stripping and winning anyway! Rich was a really important part of my spiritual evolution.  For a couple

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Both and

So I still don’t post much here because the truth of the matter is I’m still kind of scared. Scared of being burned. But, no more. The fear is NOT gone but feel the fear and do it anyway, amirite? Y’all know I’m a teacher of children right? And somehow female sexuality can not be

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World Champs

I rejoined Toastmasters a couple of months ago for completely social reasons.  I have no desire to write speeches right now but I’m having a hell of a lot of fun with the group. Tonight I chaired the meeting and I chose the theme of World Champions because the Toastmasters World Championship of Public Speaking

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So much has happened since my last post, almost 4 months ago that obviously I have not had time to write here.  But I want to tell you what happened because it is a BIG pivot. My comedy class got CANCELLED.  I was DEVASTATED.  They didn’t have enough students to run it. However, the same

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Paula Howley ex-stripper, speaker, public speaking coach for kids, kids speaking expert, confidence and compassion coach

Synthesizing an Unmistakable Voice

Srinivas Rao sent me an advanced copy of his upcoming book, “Unmistakable”.  I’m sure he sent out dozens of unproofed copies but still,  to be on his radar is pretty cool.  I’m reading it now, slowly.  One section at a time and yes, it resonates.  I’ve had 3 epiphanies just in the past hour. Ephinany

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